FINDING HUMAN CONNECTION
The Internet has connected the entire planet. So why is human connection at an all time low in this age of digital connectivity?
Today’s guest discovered an answer and a solution to the problem. He did it through his own painful experiences. He is a millennial named Gordie Bufton.
Gordie shares his discoveries in his two books, The Connection Effect: An Entrepreneurs’s Playbook to Unlocking the Present Moment, and Eluding Reality: A Memoir About Drugs, Psych Wards, and Recovery.
This episode is for people who have lost direction and are ready to put their lives back on track toward happiness and success. It is also for highly successful entrepreneurs who want more success without compromising their quality of life.
These are few of the things you will learn from my conversation with Gordie:
- How the technology that serves you is also robbing your sense of human connection
- The power you gain when you need guidance and you reach out for help
- Why environment is stronger than willpower
- How to simplify your life and dramatically increase your focus
- The meaning of Silent Sunday and how it can reboot and renew you
- How to conquer information overwhelm
- Your life resume vs.your work resume
- How to be a master of technology instead of its slave
BOOKS IN THIS POCAST
Eluding Reality: A Memoir About Drugs, Psych Wards, and Recovery by Gordie Bufton
The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life by Jeff Olson – Gordie’s favorite book
The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results by Gary Keller and Jay Papasan
The Seven Secrets to Living in Harmony: A Guide to Freeing YOU to Create YOUR Life by Gregory Reece Smith
GORDIE’S FAVORITE QUOTE
“Be the change you want to be in the world.” – Ghandi
WHAT IS ADDICTION?
Is it a profound weakness that some people have? Are those people fundamentally weak or bad?
It’s comforting to answer yes to those questions. When you answer yes, you create a safe divide between normal and abnormal behavior. And it’s easy to see yourself as normal. Especially if you work hard, earn good or great money, have a loving family, and are a respected member of your community.
But here’s the thing. You can be all of those wonderful things and still be an addict. You may not abuse alcohol or drugs; you may not binge eat and purge by vomiting; you may not throw money away at the track.
But you may be a “respectable” addict. A workaholic, an attention getting junkie, or an insatiable perfectionist.
To really understand addiction, we must look beneath the behavior to uncover its root cause. Almost always, we will find a damaged self-esteem craving connection, validation, and love.
We may discover what today’s guest, Lori Losch, discovered: “…that addicts are not bad people. We are not people with no resolve, no will-power, and no character. We are simply highly sensitive people trying to survive. And our addictions helped us … until they didn’t. Then we sought a better way. “
Lori’s discovery led her beyond her own addiction to the awareness that your “biggest MESS can become your biggest MESSAGE.”
Today, Lori is a happy highly successful woman. Her coaching program, Rather than Rehab Addiction Recovery, helps people discover their worth and their power that are hiding behind the mask of addiction.
This podcast episode opens the door to a world of self-empowerment. Here are just a few of the gems it offers you:
You will learn about:
- A clearer understanding of the inner demons we all fight
- How to feel safe in an unsafe world
- Why all addictions are survival tools
- How to move from isolation to connection
- Why you should embrace your demons and make them allies
- How having a recovery coach can change a life positively
- 3 empowering tips for people who are struggling addiction
BOOKS IN THIS PODCAST
Bumbles: … Finds Her Way Home! by Lori Losch
Bumbles: … Saves Naipoki! by Lori Losch
Safe Souls by Lori Losch
Rather Than Rehab by Lori Losch
The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo
Loving What Is by Byron Kati
The Soul of Success by Jack Canfield
The Bulletproof Diet by Dave Asprey
The Monster Within by Cynthia McClure
The Great Pain Deception by Stephen Ray Ozanich
“Treat others how you want to be treated.” – The Golden Rule
RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE
Black & White – A Film by James Toback
Brain Octane Oil
The Genius Network Annual Event
Genius Network – The World’s Best Wisdom – Presented By Joe Polish
Dr. Gabor Maté
Being True to You
A Dangerous Story
FACING FEAR AND ADVERSITY
Being fearless isn’t the lack of fear. Rather, it is about acknowledging, facing and conquering fears. Fearlessness is being open to the results of the experience whether it be good or bad. There are so many lessons to learn from failure and adversity, but you will not give yourself the chance to grow if you keep yourself safe in what’s known and secure. Overcoming adversity is what makes a leader a great leader.
Today’s guest is a man who harnesses the power of fear. He is an expert on authentic leadership. His highly popular book, The Crucible’s Gift: 5 Lessons from Authentic Leaders Who Thrive in Adversity is empowering people to face what scares them, embrace it, and use it as a stepping stone for leadership. He also delivers this important message in his podcast, Executive After Hours. Get ready for expansion, growth and inspiration from Dr. James Kelley.
In this podcast, Dr. James Kelley reveals how to become and authentic leader.
You will discover:
- Major adversities that helped Dr. Kelley become the man he is today
- How a DUI experience helped him grow
- The power of “flipping” to combat fear.
- Your lizard brain’s dangerous agenda
- How Enlightened Warrior Training Camp changes lives in five days
- How your darkest moment can become your greatest gift
- How life in the Middle East redefined James Kelley’s comfort zone
- Secrets of Dr. Kelley’s Authentic Leadership model
- How to spot your false narratives on happiness and success
- The power of micro-moments of meaning
- How crucible moments can enrich your life
- How thinking about your eulogy can make you a better leader
- The importance of self-compassion
QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE
“We all have moments. The bigger question is not if we have them but if we are able to reflect on them and find a good in them to expand who we are as human beings.”
“You are allowed to have your pity if you want it but the important thing is not to wallow in it.”
“We are all creatures of our social construction that we’ve been created and raised in.”
“We only know our truth based on the environment that we are raised in.”
“Don’t let fear conquer you. You conquer your fear.”
“Fear is a fundamental factor on many of the choices that we make.”
“The world changes when your mind changes.”
“Somebody always has it worse than you.”
“If you are not evolving, you are dying.”
“When we have adversity, we often don’t know that that moment is transformational.”
“Money doesn’t actually equate to happiness.”
“Authenticity is trying to be a better version of yourself for the greater good of society.”
“Crucible moment is any fundamental moment in your life that forces you to take pause and re-evaluate and fundamentally shift who you are.”
“It’s so hard to take care of yourself. But when you do, it makes it easier to take care of other people.”
“To be right with yourself means you can be right with other people.”
“Do what is right but you don’t have to be right.”
BOOKS IN THIS PODCAST
The Obstacle Is the Way by Ryan Holiday
Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker
Solve for Happy: Engineer Your Path to Joy by Mo Gawdat
Triggers by Mark Reiter and Marshall Goldsmith
High Fidelity by Nick Hornby
Conversations Worth Having by Cheri B. Torres and Jacqueline M. Stavros
“Don’t let fear conquer you. Conquer fear.” – Dr. James Kelley
CONTACT DR. JAMES KELLEY
Dr. James Kelly’s Website – www.drjameskelley.com
LINKS AND RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE