Humans are hardwired to feel that their beliefs are real. We filter all that we see and hear through our beliefs and think that the world we perceive is objective reality.
There is so much evidence to prove that all beliefs are just made up stories. Why do we make them up? In order to feel that our lives are on solid ground. There is an upside to that. There is also a major downside.
Our beliefs often clash with the beliefs of others. If we hold on to our narratives tightly we will experience discord, even violence and unhappiness.
Also, if we insist that our beliefs are object reality, it becomes hard for us to empathize with and understand people with very different beliefs than others. And, our blindness makes us vulnerable to unconsciously adopting beliefs that can harm us and others.
A great example of a belief that was passionately held as true was the idea that the German people were the master race,and that Jews were subhumans who should be exterminated. We must not forget that a large segment of German society embraced that belief without question. More importantly, the people who embraced Naziism were, for the most part, ordinary human beings like you and me.
The moment we get beyond our fear of letting beliefs go and accepting that they are stories, we step into the power to create any narrative we want to enrich and empower our lives.
This is the first episode of 2020.
I’m introducing a new lean format that will feature many solo episodes.
Each new episode will explore another way that stories create our reality.
WHO WRITES YOUR STORY?
Is your life based on lies, made-up stories, or noble beliefs? What if they are all the same thing? Then, the important question becomes, “Who writes your story?”
This episode explore the idea that we all need stories to motivate and inspire our lives, and that all our beliefs serve to keep us in the game of living. But, make no mistake about it; all beliefs are constructs. They are made up.
Most of us grew up with strong beliefs about the importance of formal education. The story goes that education defines intelligence, it bestows respect, and it opens the doors to success and happiness.
That education story is coming apart quickly in our world. Look around you, and you will find many happy highly successful people who do not have much, if any, formal education.
My perception is that the education story is designed to do three things:
- prepare you to think and live as an employee
- conditions you to seek external approval for your life choices
- define who is intelligent and who is not
More and more people are discovering that letters after a person’s name and certificates from institutions of higher learning do not determine intelligence.
I encourage you in this episode to summon the courage to write your own story, the one that beats in your heart, the one that makes you feel alive. That is the only story worth living.
You’ll learn about a fascinating contemporary success story that flies in the face of all the things you’ve been taught about how to achieve great success.
The name of the game for growth, happiness, independence, and true success today is value creation for the marketplace. You don’t need formal education for that.
STAGES OF TRUTH
The philosopher, Arthur Schopenhauer, gave us the concept of the three stages of truth. There’s a debate about whether or not it was Schopenhauer. That’s not what this podcast is about.
This episode explores the brilliant observation that any new truth must pass through three stages before it is fully accepted and embraced by society.
The three stages of truth are:
- Violent Opposition
- Self Evident
It’s fascinating that people will accept something as self evident, and, at that stage, even embrace it and passionately promote it after they violently opposed it. What does that mean?
It means that humans are hardwired to strongly resist change and to make many of their choices irrationally. Most of our decisions are emotionally based and rationally justified. That’s what makes us storytelling machines.
Here are some examples in our world of things that have either passed through or are still going through the three stages of truth.
- The automobile
- The airplane
- Franchise business model
- Network marketing business model
- Alcoholic beverages
Why is it important to understand this phenomenon? Because we tend to do it unconsciously. That can lead to accepting limiting beliefs about life, about our own capabilities, and about what is possible. Unless we question or challenge our beliefs, we cannot discover if they support or harm us.
Today, we are surrounded by persuasive media messages 24/7. Many of those messages are dictating the stories we should live by. And, unknowingly, we accept those stories.
This podcast challenges you to create your stories, your life narratives, by design, and to not accept them by default.
Listen to this episode with an open mind, a sense of adventure and courage, and then take the challenge to question your beliefs and transform your life with an empowering story that you create.
The clothing you wear makes a statement. But what about the clothing you don’t wear? You know, the suits, dresses, jeans, slacks, and every other item that covers the human body that you stopped wearing a long time ago.
You don’t wear them. But you won’t give them up. Those pieces of clothing have their own unique wardrobe stories. Stories about you, the people in your life, and your past. Stories that carry a lot of emotional baggage.
This episode continues our conversation about decluttering your home. This one focuses specifically on the clothes you stopped wearing but allow to live in your closets and drawers, and, more importantly, in your heart and mind.
You’ll learn an exercise in today’s podcast that can help you release buried emotions that may be weighing you down and holding you back in life. You are going to confront and explore 3 kinds of clothing:
- Clothing that is connected to a previous relationship in your life. Maybe, it was a gift from your ex. Or, it was something that you wore when you dated your ex. The relationship ended, you stopped wearing the item of clothing, but it still takes up space in your home.
- An item of clothing that you bought and no longer care about or wear.
- Something that you no longer wear, but you still like it.
You will pick up each item separately, hold it, and begin a dialogue with it. You will know what to say and ask when emotions come to surface triggered by the clothing.
Finally, you will summon the courage to release the item and the emotions attached to it.
You’ll also hear my challenge to do a serious purge of your wardrobe and other objects in your home. When you do it, you may discover that you feel lighter. You may experience a new sense of freedom. You will have made space for new empowering things to enter your life.
This can be a huge breakthrough for you. You will learn that your past is a made up story. You will be free to write a new story with bright and inviting future.
So, listen, change, and grow.
BOOKS IN THIS PODCAST
Travesties – a play by Tom Stoppard
Extremities – a play by William Mastrosimone