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211: Who Writes Your Story?

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WHO WRITES YOUR STORY?

Is your life based on lies, made-up stories, or noble beliefs? What if they are all the same thing? Then, the important question becomes, “Who writes your story?”

This episode explore the idea that we all need stories to motivate and inspire our lives, and that all our beliefs serve to keep us in the game of living. But, make no mistake about it; all beliefs are constructs. They are made up.

Most of us grew up with strong beliefs about the importance of formal education. The story goes that education defines intelligence, it bestows respect, and it opens the doors to success and happiness.

That education story is coming apart quickly in our world. Look around you, and you will find many happy highly successful people who do not have much, if any, formal education.

My perception is that the education story is designed to do three things:

  • prepare you to think and live as an employee
  • conditions you to seek external approval for your life choices
  • define who is intelligent and who is not

More and more people are discovering that letters after a person’s name and certificates from institutions of higher learning do not determine intelligence.

I encourage you in this episode to summon the courage to write your own story, the one that beats in your heart, the one that makes you feel alive. That is the only story worth living.

You’ll learn about a fascinating contemporary success story that flies in the face of all the things you’ve been taught about how to achieve great success.

The name of the game for growth, happiness, independence, and true success today is value creation for the marketplace. You don’t need formal education for that.

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204: Stages of Truth

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STAGES OF TRUTH

The philosopher, Arthur Schopenhauer, gave us the concept of the three stages of truth. There’s a debate about whether or not it was Schopenhauer. That’s not what this podcast is about.

This episode explores the brilliant observation that any new truth must pass through three stages before it is fully accepted and embraced by society.

The three stages of truth are:

  1. Ridicule
  2. Violent Opposition
  3. Self Evident

It’s fascinating that people will accept something as self evident, and, at that stage, even embrace it and passionately promote it after they violently opposed it. What does that mean?

It means that humans are hardwired to strongly resist change and to make many of their choices irrationally. Most of our decisions are emotionally based and rationally justified. That’s what makes us storytelling machines.

Here are some examples in our world of things that have either passed through or are still going through the three stages of truth.

  • The automobile
  • The airplane
  • Franchise business model
  • Network marketing business model
  • Alcoholic beverages
  • Cannabis

Why is it important to understand this phenomenon? Because we tend to do it unconsciously. That can lead to accepting limiting beliefs about life, about our own capabilities, and about what is possible. Unless we question or challenge our beliefs, we cannot discover if they support or harm us.

Today, we are surrounded by persuasive media messages 24/7. Many of those messages are dictating the stories we should live by. And, unknowingly, we accept those stories.

This podcast challenges you to create your stories, your life narratives, by design, and to not accept them by default.

Listen to this episode with an open mind, a sense of adventure and courage, and then take the challenge to question your beliefs and transform your life with an empowering story that you create.

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183: Wardrobe Stories

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WARDROBE STORIES

The clothing you wear makes a statement. But what about the clothing you don’t wear? You know, the suits, dresses, jeans, slacks, and every other item that covers the human body that you stopped wearing a long time ago.

You don’t wear them. But you won’t give them up. Those pieces of clothing have their own unique wardrobe stories. Stories about you, the people in your life, and your past. Stories that carry a lot of emotional baggage.

This episode continues our conversation about decluttering your home. This one focuses specifically on the clothes you stopped wearing but allow to live in your closets and drawers, and, more importantly, in your heart and mind.

You’ll learn an exercise in today’s podcast that can help you release buried emotions that may be weighing you down and holding you back in life. You are going to confront and explore 3 kinds of clothing:

  1. Clothing that is connected to a previous relationship in your life. Maybe, it was a gift from your ex. Or, it was something that you wore when you dated your ex. The relationship ended, you stopped wearing the item of clothing, but it still takes up space in your home.
  2. An item of clothing that you bought and no longer care about or wear.
  3. Something that you no longer wear, but you still like it.

You will pick up each item separately, hold it, and begin a dialogue with it. You will know what to say and ask when emotions come to surface triggered by the clothing.

Finally, you will summon the courage to release the item and the emotions attached to it.

You’ll also hear my challenge to do a serious purge of your wardrobe and other objects in your home. When you do it, you may discover that you feel lighter. You may experience a new sense of freedom. You will have made space for new empowering things to enter your life.

This can be a huge breakthrough for you. You will learn that your past is a made up story. You will be free to write a new story with bright and inviting future.

So, listen, change, and grow.

BOOKS IN THIS PODCAST

Travesties – a play by Tom Stoppard

Extremities – a play by William Mastrosimone

 

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180: Master Your Time

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MASTER YOUR TIME

Are you time’s master or it’s slave? That is, without a doubt, the most important question to ask yourself right NOW!

I didn’t use all caps on the word now just for dramatic emphasis. I did it because now, today, this moment in history is the age of exponential digital technology.

The digital world can offer you paradise on earth – if you understand its rules and its tempo. If you don’t it will rob you of your most precious asset – TIME. Then you may experience hell on earth.

Make it a priority to master your time if you value happiness, success, and abundance.

Today’s guest is a man who was once enslaved by time. He freed himself from bondage. Today, he will show you exactly how to own your time, channel it effectively, and live a life of choice instead of slavish obligation.

Steven Griffith is the real deal who will help you quickly master your time. These are only a few highlights of the gems you’ll discover as you listen to Steven:

  • How to be unstoppable even when your dreams get crushed
  • Why so many smart people are slaves to time
  • What it means to have a toxic relationship with time
  • How the answer to the question, “Who is Time?” can transform your life
  • Why setting goals may not serve you
  • Why setting intentions gives you power
  • Why structure leads to freedom
  • The one question that will end your slavery to time
  • How a small shift in thinking can 12x your sales
  • The power and freedom you’ll gain when you do a Time Cleanse

Steven even offers you the formula to his powerful Time Excuse Diet. Try it for one week if you want to live a life by design.

He also gives you a sneak preview of what to expect from his new book, available on March 12, 2019. A few days from now!

The title is below. It is definitely not another time “management” book. You will never master your time by trying to manage it.

BOOKS IN THIS PODCAST

The Time Cleanse by Steven Griffith

Wherever You Go, There You Are by Jon Kabat-Zinn – Steven’s favorite book

The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod

The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

STEVEN’S FAVORITE QUOTE

“Everything will be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.” – Paulo Coelho

CONTACT STEVEN

www.StevenGriffith.com/master-class – Go there NOW for Steven’s FREE masterclass on how to master your time.

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175: Deadly Comparisons

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SOCIAL COMPARISONS

Social comparisons are deadly. And in today’s world we fall prey to them all the time.

Social media and the Internet are powerful resources that can enrich our lives – if we use them intentionally.

Here’s what I mean. We can build a business empire with social media. We can find great prospects, leads, and strategic partnerships online.

But, what can happen when we idle surf the web? We can be drawn into the deadly game of social comparisons.

Think you are above that? Maybe. I would urge you to think again. We are all susceptible to the images we see on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube – pick your social media of choice. And here’s the thing. Many of those seductive images are made up.

We live in a selfie world. It’s fun, entertaining, profitable, and dangerous. How dangerous? Check out the insightful research on the rise of teen suicide and it’s connection to social media.

I want to emphasize that I value social media. I respect its power to enrich and to destroy. When we fall into the trap of comparing our lives to “perfect lives” we see on social media, we run into serious trouble.

I know that this does not only apply to teens. Every single human being can be snared into the game of social comparisons. The only way to never engage in that game is to be 100% self-aware all the time.

That requires effort and discipline, just like physical exercise. Sometimes, it feels better to surf the web passively, and let our minds take a rest. That’s when your self image becomes easy prey to the perfect images that seduce us into deadly social comparisons.

Want to be the master of your self-narrative? Think about the beauty you find in nature. Walk in the woods and appreciate the limitless diversity you see there. Look at trees. Every one is different. They are short, tall, think, slender, straight, spiralled, smooth, and gnarled. It’s easy to see the beauty in all of them.

Are they perfect? Yes and no. What is perfection? We will stop comparing ourselves to others when we embrace the perfection of imperfection.

The animal kingdom teaches us a lot about about diversity. Look at three totally different breeds of dogs. A chihuahua, a bulldog, and a Great Dane, for instance. Do they get depressed because they don’t look alike? Does a chihuahua lose sleep and go to a pet shrink because it’s not as “beautiful” as a Great Dane?

These questions make you laugh. Well, have a good laugh at the times (we all have them) when you have felt “less than” someone because of social comparisons. Then, decide to stop playing the game.

T.S. Eliot, one of the great poets of the 20th century wrote these words: “There will be time, there will be time to prepare a face to meet the faces that you meet.”

Think about those words the next time you find yourself drawn into the game of social comparisons.  Remember that the people you are comparing yourself to have probably devoted time and energy to preparing the face to meet the faces that they meet.

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