The clothing you wear makes a statement. But what about the clothing you don’t wear? You know, the suits, dresses, jeans, slacks, and every other item that covers the human body that you stopped wearing a long time ago.
You don’t wear them. But you won’t give them up. Those pieces of clothing have their own unique wardrobe stories. Stories about you, the people in your life, and your past. Stories that carry a lot of emotional baggage.
This episode continues our conversation about decluttering your home. This one focuses specifically on the clothes you stopped wearing but allow to live in your closets and drawers, and, more importantly, in your heart and mind.
You’ll learn an exercise in today’s podcast that can help you release buried emotions that may be weighing you down and holding you back in life. You are going to confront and explore 3 kinds of clothing:
- Clothing that is connected to a previous relationship in your life. Maybe, it was a gift from your ex. Or, it was something that you wore when you dated your ex. The relationship ended, you stopped wearing the item of clothing, but it still takes up space in your home.
- An item of clothing that you bought and no longer care about or wear.
- Something that you no longer wear, but you still like it.
You will pick up each item separately, hold it, and begin a dialogue with it. You will know what to say and ask when emotions come to surface triggered by the clothing.
Finally, you will summon the courage to release the item and the emotions attached to it.
You’ll also hear my challenge to do a serious purge of your wardrobe and other objects in your home. When you do it, you may discover that you feel lighter. You may experience a new sense of freedom. You will have made space for new empowering things to enter your life.
This can be a huge breakthrough for you. You will learn that your past is a made up story. You will be free to write a new story with bright and inviting future.
So, listen, change, and grow.
BOOKS IN THIS PODCAST
Travesties – a play by Tom Stoppard
Extremities – a play by William Mastrosimone
MASTER YOUR TIME
Are you time’s master or it’s slave? That is, without a doubt, the most important question to ask yourself right NOW!
I didn’t use all caps on the word now just for dramatic emphasis. I did it because now, today, this moment in history is the age of exponential digital technology.
The digital world can offer you paradise on earth – if you understand its rules and its tempo. If you don’t it will rob you of your most precious asset – TIME. Then you may experience hell on earth.
Make it a priority to master your time if you value happiness, success, and abundance.
Today’s guest is a man who was once enslaved by time. He freed himself from bondage. Today, he will show you exactly how to own your time, channel it effectively, and live a life of choice instead of slavish obligation.
Steven Griffith is the real deal who will help you quickly master your time. These are only a few highlights of the gems you’ll discover as you listen to Steven:
- How to be unstoppable even when your dreams get crushed
- Why so many smart people are slaves to time
- What it means to have a toxic relationship with time
- How the answer to the question, “Who is Time?” can transform your life
- Why setting goals may not serve you
- Why setting intentions gives you power
- Why structure leads to freedom
- The one question that will end your slavery to time
- How a small shift in thinking can 12x your sales
- The power and freedom you’ll gain when you do a Time Cleanse
Steven even offers you the formula to his powerful Time Excuse Diet. Try it for one week if you want to live a life by design.
He also gives you a sneak preview of what to expect from his new book, available on March 12, 2019. A few days from now!
The title is below. It is definitely not another time “management” book. You will never master your time by trying to manage it.
BOOKS IN THIS PODCAST
The Time Cleanse by Steven Griffith
Wherever You Go, There You Are by Jon Kabat-Zinn – Steven’s favorite book
The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod
The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
STEVEN’S FAVORITE QUOTE
“Everything will be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.” – Paulo Coelho
www.StevenGriffith.com/master-class – Go there NOW for Steven’s FREE masterclass on how to master your time.
Social comparisons are deadly. And in today’s world we fall prey to them all the time.
Social media and the Internet are powerful resources that can enrich our lives – if we use them intentionally.
Here’s what I mean. We can build a business empire with social media. We can find great prospects, leads, and strategic partnerships online.
But, what can happen when we idle surf the web? We can be drawn into the deadly game of social comparisons.
Think you are above that? Maybe. I would urge you to think again. We are all susceptible to the images we see on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube – pick your social media of choice. And here’s the thing. Many of those seductive images are made up.
We live in a selfie world. It’s fun, entertaining, profitable, and dangerous. How dangerous? Check out the insightful research on the rise of teen suicide and it’s connection to social media.
I want to emphasize that I value social media. I respect its power to enrich and to destroy. When we fall into the trap of comparing our lives to “perfect lives” we see on social media, we run into serious trouble.
I know that this does not only apply to teens. Every single human being can be snared into the game of social comparisons. The only way to never engage in that game is to be 100% self-aware all the time.
That requires effort and discipline, just like physical exercise. Sometimes, it feels better to surf the web passively, and let our minds take a rest. That’s when your self image becomes easy prey to the perfect images that seduce us into deadly social comparisons.
Want to be the master of your self-narrative? Think about the beauty you find in nature. Walk in the woods and appreciate the limitless diversity you see there. Look at trees. Every one is different. They are short, tall, think, slender, straight, spiralled, smooth, and gnarled. It’s easy to see the beauty in all of them.
Are they perfect? Yes and no. What is perfection? We will stop comparing ourselves to others when we embrace the perfection of imperfection.
The animal kingdom teaches us a lot about about diversity. Look at three totally different breeds of dogs. A chihuahua, a bulldog, and a Great Dane, for instance. Do they get depressed because they don’t look alike? Does a chihuahua lose sleep and go to a pet shrink because it’s not as “beautiful” as a Great Dane?
These questions make you laugh. Well, have a good laugh at the times (we all have them) when you have felt “less than” someone because of social comparisons. Then, decide to stop playing the game.
T.S. Eliot, one of the great poets of the 20th century wrote these words: “There will be time, there will be time to prepare a face to meet the faces that you meet.”
Think about those words the next time you find yourself drawn into the game of social comparisons. Remember that the people you are comparing yourself to have probably devoted time and energy to preparing the face to meet the faces that they meet.
Are you a prisoner to a simple word that you hear every day? Many people are.
It’s a common word that we all use and take for granted. And, it’s a killer word. Literally.
The word is DECIDE. Here are two dictionary definitions of decide:
- Come to a resolution in the mind
- Make a choice from a number of alternatives
In this episode of one word stories, you’ll discover the deeper meaning of the word, decide. You will learn what makes it a killer word.
Decide is a simple word. It’s safe to assume that all of you know what it means. Still, many people have trouble making simple decisions.
Etymology, the study of word origins, teaches us a few fascinating things about decide:
- Decide has two parts, a prefix and a suffix.
- The prefix (the part that comes before) is de.
- The suffix (the part that comes after) is cide.
- Both parts are derived from Latin – de means off; cide means to kill (from the Latin verb, caedere)
- Decide literally means to kill off.
I believe that decisions often feel hard to make because they require that you kill off every alternative but one. It means giving something up. We don’t like giving things up.
Our resistance to giving things up creates a lot of conflict. We get caught up in the “what if” game. Faced with a number of alternatives, we ask, “What if I give up _____ and lose _____?
The what if game is a losing game. It creates an endless cycle of indecision that drains our energy.
If you have trouble making decisions, consider this thought. It could liberate you. You’re not really giving anything up when you decide. You can’t give up what you don’t have.
When your mind is reeling with alternatives to choose, you don’t “have” any of them until you make a choice. By not choosing, you have nothing.
Stop asking, “Which is the best choice?” It’s a bogus question because it doesn’t have an answer. The best choice is THE ONE YOU MAKE.
You will discover the truth of that last sentence when you ignore your mind chatter and take a bold step in one direction by choosing one alternative.
You choice, your action, will energize and empower you. Then, commit 100% to your choice, and make this other powerful discovery. Nothing means anything, until you make it something.”
Decide today to kill indecision. Step into your personal power by taking the power away from a killer word.