175: Deadly Comparisons

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Social comparisons are deadly. And in today’s world we fall prey to them all the time.

Social media and the Internet are powerful resources that can enrich our lives – if we use them intentionally.

Here’s what I mean. We can build a business empire with social media. We can find great prospects, leads, and strategic partnerships online.

But, what can happen when we idle surf the web? We can be drawn into the deadly game of social comparisons.

Think you are above that? Maybe. I would urge you to think again. We are all susceptible to the images we see on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube – pick your social media of choice. And here’s the thing. Many of those seductive images are made up.

We live in a selfie world. It’s fun, entertaining, profitable, and dangerous. How dangerous? Check out the insightful research on the rise of teen suicide and it’s connection to social media.

I want to emphasize that I value social media. I respect its power to enrich and to destroy. When we fall into the trap of comparing our lives to “perfect lives” we see on social media, we run into serious trouble.

I know that this does not only apply to teens. Every single human being can be snared into the game of social comparisons. The only way to never engage in that game is to be 100% self-aware all the time.

That requires effort and discipline, just like physical exercise. Sometimes, it feels better to surf the web passively, and let our minds take a rest. That’s when your self image becomes easy prey to the perfect images that seduce us into deadly social comparisons.

Want to be the master of your self-narrative? Think about the beauty you find in nature. Walk in the woods and appreciate the limitless diversity you see there. Look at trees. Every one is different. They are short, tall, think, slender, straight, spiralled, smooth, and gnarled. It’s easy to see the beauty in all of them.

Are they perfect? Yes and no. What is perfection? We will stop comparing ourselves to others when we embrace the perfection of imperfection.

The animal kingdom teaches us a lot about about diversity. Look at three totally different breeds of dogs. A chihuahua, a bulldog, and a Great Dane, for instance. Do they get depressed because they don’t look alike? Does a chihuahua lose sleep and go to a pet shrink because it’s not as “beautiful” as a Great Dane?

These questions make you laugh. Well, have a good laugh at the times (we all have them) when you have felt “less than” someone because of social comparisons. Then, decide to stop playing the game.

T.S. Eliot, one of the great poets of the 20th century wrote these words: “There will be time, there will be time to prepare a face to meet the faces that you meet.”

Think about those words the next time you find yourself drawn into the game of social comparisons.  Remember that the people you are comparing yourself to have probably devoted time and energy to preparing the face to meet the faces that they meet.

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174: Limitless Mindset

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I grew up constantly hearing that a sign of maturity is to know your limitations.  I believed it. And it’s nonsense.

Most of the time, you will allow your doubts to define your limits. Once you accept a limit in your mind, it becomes your story; it become your reality. You become an “I can’t person.”

Today’s guest is an “I can person.” She has earned the right to her success by constantly shattering limits, venturing into the unknown, and taking on big challenges. She reveals how to step into your limitless mindset.

Her name is Laura Gassner Otting. Her latest book, that you can preorder on Amazon, is Limitless: How to Ignore Everybody, Carve Your Own Path, and Live Your Best Life.

You are in for  a treat in this episode. You will hear a very smart, highly energetic, entertaining woman whose words and thoughts can help you shatter your limits.

Here’s a glimpse at the value packed learning you’ll enjoy listening to Laura’s story:

  • Why you should live at the edge of incompetence
  • The power of knowing that you are not that important
  • Identifying if you are a star chaser and what to do about it
  • Why contained risk is good for you

You’ll be fascinated by Laura’s journey from Bill Clinton’s White House to CEO of a successful company to the high achieving entrepreneurial life she leads today. That journey helped her gain many valuable insights that she shares in today’s interview.

Here are a few more of the mind expanding insights she offers you:

  • How to snap out of analysis paralysis
  • How to discover your own super power
  • How to make the shift from your career to your calling
  • 4 words to ban from your life
  • The awesome power of saying YES to things

Laura gives you several powerful backpack moment in this episode. A backpack moment is an idea, a takeaway, that can change your life even if you didn’t listen to any more of  the interview. You could literally put on your backpack and go on your way enriched.

A few thoughts that could become the backpack moments for your limitless mindset are:

  • Why the question, “How can I help?” often leads to short term thinking
  • How to achieve consonance – living your life so that what you do matches who you are
  • The 4 elements of consonance that give your life a powerful purpose
  • The difference between your family and your “framily”
  • Why you should wave your freak flag high (we all have one)
  • Stepping into your fundamental state of leadership


Stones from the River by Ursula Hegi (Laura’s favorite)

Mission Driven: Moving from Profit to Purpose by Laura Gassner Otting

Limitless: How to Ignore Everybody, Carve Your Own Path, and Live Your Best Life by Laura Gassner Otting


“…You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

“Well behaved women seldom make history.” – Laurel Thatcher Ulrich


www.LauraGassnerOtting.com/Change – FREE GIFT – 4 Ways to Discover Your Calling



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172: Go-Giver

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You’ve heard of a go getter. So, what’s a go giver? Not the opposite of a go getter. The opposite of a go giver is a go taker.

This episode is not about an amusing word game. It’s an interview with a brilliant man whose views on the world transform lives.

His name is Bob Burg, an accomplished and recognized speaker, author, and a sales/mindset trainer. As an author, his book sales have crossed the one million mark.

Two of his most popular books are The Go-Giver, that he co-authored with John David Mann, and Endless Referrals, a book that delivers big time on the promise of its title.

There’s a simple profound theme in all of Bob Burg’s work. It’s this. The more you give, the more you get. He walks and talks the belief that the amount of money you make is directly proportional to how many people you serve.

Here’s what’s exciting about listening to Bob or reading one of his books. You’ll get insights about influence and persuasion that have been around since our ancestors stepped out of caves into society.

But here’s the thing. Bob lets you view these insights through a powerful, new, crystal clear lens. You may even get the feeling that you are learning them for the first time. That kind of ah-ha is life transforming and enriching.

Here are just a few of the value bombs that Bob Burg drops in this interview as we discuss his latest book, The Go-Giver Influencer:

  • The true meaning of influence
  • The big difference between persuasion and manipulation
  • Why context is more important than the content of your words
  • Why you should use stories to influence, persuade, and sell
  • A powerful communication lesson you’ll learn from an elephant
  • What a cat named Cleocatra can teach you about persuasion and influence
  • The back door rule of persuasion
  • Why compromise creates a lose-lose situation
  • The art and skill of listening with the back of your neck

True to form, Bob just keeps giving and giving in this episode. You’ll definitely want to absorb the seven figure wisdom he reveals with:

  • The 5 Secrets of Influence
  • The 8 words guaranteed to win people to your point of view


The Go-Giver: A Little Story About a Powerful Business Idea by Bob Burg & John David Mann

The Go-Giver Influencer: A Little Story About a Most Persuasive Idea by Bob Burg & John David Mann

Endless Referrals: Network Your Everyday Contacts into Sales by Bob Burg

The Art of Talking So People Will Listen by Paul W. Swets

How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace W. Wattles

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

The Secret of Selling Anything by Harry Browne


“You can have everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want.” – Zig Ziglar


www.TheGoGiver.com – FREE chapters from Bob’s books!

www.Burg.com/10Q – FREE 10 powerful feel-good questions for networking

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170: Millionaire Choices

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Millionaire choices don’t begin with the choices you make about money; they begin with the choices you make about life. Here’s what I mean.

Abundance and wealth creation are the result of the belief that outer circumstances do not control the choices you make in life.

If life deals you a bad hand, you can still win the game by playing the cards you have with imagination, desire, and focus.

Today’s episode is an interview with Tony Bradshaw, the man who wrote the book, The Millionaire Choice. he wrote it to inspire and equip people to become millionaires, no matter where they are financially right now.

Tony walks his talk. He grew up poor in a broken home. His dad was an alcoholic. His neighbors were drug dealers. At the age of four, Tony was in his dad’s car when the police stopped them and arrested his father from drunk driving.

You will hear about some other difficult challenges that Tony Bradshaw faced while growing up. Challenges that many people would use as excuses for not achieving success and have a great life.

You will also learn about the life changing decision Tony made at the age of twenty-five to be a millionaire by age forty. That’s what it takes. A decision. A choice. A millionaire choice. You can make that choice if you want to. And, you can make it at any age.

You’ll get fired up as Tony shares valuable valuable insights about:

  • Financial awakening
  • A Millionaire Plan – move forward, no matter what; never look in the rear view mirror
  • How to get money smart
  • Why you should have multiple income streams
  • How to break bad money habits
  • 4 factors, besides, money, that will help you become a millionaire
  • The 4 Bucket System – your step-by-step action plan to transform your financial life
  • The core of Tony’s system – 10 Keys of the Millionaire
  • Entering the Great Zone


Good to Great by Jim Collins (Tony’s favorite book)

Cashflow Quadrant by Robert Kiyosaki

Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki

The 10X Rule: The Only Difference Between Success and Failure by Grant Cardone

Be Obsessed or Be Average by Grant Cardone


“Good is the enemy of great.” – Jim Collins





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168: Walk Your Talk

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“Commitment is doing the thing you said you would do long after the mood you said it in has passed.” That quote is by George Zalucki, an international icon of self development. It is also one of today’s guest’s favorite quotes.

Our inspiring guest is Ray Higdon, a seven figure earner as a former network marketer and now as an internationally recognized network marketing coach.

This episode is definitely for you even if you are not a network marketer and have no interest in it. Why? Because it is a powerful conversation about showing up in your life and business 100%. it’s about stepping into the power to walk your talk.

You will feel Ray’s authentic energy throughout this interview.  That energy literally radiates from Ray’s voice and touches you on a level beyond words. You can’t help but feel uplifted and empowered by Ray Higdon’s authenticity, vulnerability, and passion.

People pay Ray six figures for the knowledge, wisdom, and life changing secrets that he shares freely with you in today’s podcast episode.

Ray dropped so many value bombs in this interview. Here a just a few of the high ticket lessons you will learn:

  • Releasing emotional baggage to attract wealth and happiness
  • The value of becoming uncomfortable
  • Why a breakdown proceeds every major breakthrough
  • The transformative power of two simple words: Until & Despite
  • What real consistency looks like
  • Why life’s worst circumstances can’t really stop you
  • One pivotal event that unlocked Ray’a power to grow, succeed, and contribute
  • Why you should learn to take action before you are ready
  • One book that transformed and empowered Ray’s life
  • How you will feel when you align your words with your actions

If you are tired of being a spectator of this rewarding Life Game, listen to this entire episode with Ray Higdon, and become a winning player.


Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand


“I don’t feel pressure; I just see opportunity.” – Larry Bird (Ray’s favorite)

“Commitment is doing the thing you said you would do long after the mood you said it in has passed.” – George Zalucki

“Don’t wish for things to be easier. Wish for you to be better.” – Jim Rohn





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