personal development

208: Story Loops

our head chatter

STORY LOOPS

We all get caught in story loops, but often we don’t know it. In fact, we may not even know what a story loop is.

A story loop is a recurring thought or series of thoughts that play in our heads over and over. It’s like listening to a broken record that’s stuck in one spot.

We experience three different kinds of story loops:

  1. Obsession – We are preoccupied with something or someone that we have made very important in our minds.
  2. Resistance – We have recurring unpleasant thoughts that make us feel anxious and upset. We try to make the thoughts go away by fighting them. This makes them even stronger and more dominant.
  3. Identification – We identify with a a label about us or a belief relating to our self image. Usually, these thoughts are not empowering.

There is a way to free ourselves from the incessant repetition of these loops. It requires us to become observers of the mental stream that constantly flows through our minds.

When you are the observer, you remain detached. Detachment will allow the thoughts to move on and not develop into narratives that control us.

You can become the observer by practicing meditation. It will help you grow into a person who is the storyteller creating an empowering script for your own life.

Whether you choose to meditate or not, make it imperative to master your inner narrative. It is the only way to keep growing and experience deeper levels of life’s richness.

GUIDED MEDITATION

www.Headspace.com

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206: Good Hood

how to overcome adversity

GOOD HOOD

This episode will empower you to triumph over any of life’s circumstances.

You will hear the true inspiring story of a man who was born into extreme adversity and chose to create an extraordinary life in spite of it.

The man is Johnny Wimbrey. He was raised in a battered women’s shelter. He learned to survive on the street as a fourteen year old drug dealer. He had a rap sheet before he was twenty.

Today, he is an internationally acclaimed speaker, author, coach and team builder to pro athletes, high performing business people, politicians, and media celebrities.

He is also devoted husband, father, and humanitarian who helps relieve suffering worldwide.

You will not only learn and be inspired by what he says. You will also discover how a compelling communicator speaks when you hear and feel his authentic energy.

Here are just a few of the gems in this interview with  Johnny Wimbrey, the good hood:

  • How a friend’s murder led to Johnny’s redemption
  • Why Johnny gave away his gun forever
  • How an answered prayer opened the door to happiness and success
  • Harsh lessons from the street life that hold the secrets to massive legitimate success
  • Why the only thing between you and your dream life could be a label that someone else gave you
  • How you can and should become a first generation millionaire
  • How eliminating two small everyday words can empower and transform your life
  • The magic of surrounding yourself with thinking that out-thinks you
  • The real meaning of the word RESPONSIBILITY

JOHNNY’S FAVORITE BOOK

The Book of Proverbs – The Holy Bible

JOHNNY’S BOOK

From the Hood to Doing Good by Johnny Wimbrey

JOHNNY’S FAVORITE QUOTES

“Adversity causes some men to break; others to break records.” – William Arthur Ward

“Surround yourself with thinking that out-thinks you.” – Johnny Wimbrey

CONTACT JOHNNY

@JohnnyWimbrey

www.CoachJohnny.com

www.CostarAuthor.com

 

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205: FOMO

podcast about the fear of missing out

FOMO

It must be pretty widespread to have its own acronym. I’m talking about FOMO, the fear of missing out.

Missing out on what? Anything. You name it. Not having the latest smartphone, tablet, or other mobile device. Not getting in on the prelaunch of a marketing guru’s latest course or product. Missing the deadline for that VIP membership site; hey, who knows when or if it will open again?

We’ve all experienced the fear of missing out to some degree in our lives. After all, this is the digital age when shiny objects pop up out of thin air 24/7 to taunt and entice us.

This episode explores three ways that FOMO can show up to influence our emotions and our actions:

  • SHOPPING Fear of Missing Out – This is the classic shiny object syndrome. Usually, this kind of fear stalks us online. We get hooked by an “irresistible offer” for a digital product or course. Can be expensive, but it’s fairly harmless.
  • OVERWHELM – This is the fear that constantly reminds us that we “don’t have enough time” to do everything we have to do. It leads us to multitasking, which is a false story about getting things done. Multitasking does not make us more productive; it just robs us of our focus.
  • RELATIONSHIP FOMO – This fear is also related to time. Its narrative is that we had better choose a life partner before it’s too late. Many women fall prey to this prompted by the ticking of their biological clocks. The choose less that ideal mates out of fear of remaining barren and alone. Their choices can sometimes lead to a lot of pain and suffering.

The episode also contains a special bonus – an exercise that will prove to you that multitasking is a lie. This easy fun game will also liberate you and instantly make you more productive.

I learned this exercise from a world class marketer, Dean Jackson.

Listen, learn, grow, and prosper.

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194: Story of a Hat

story of a hat

STORY OF A HAT

Imagine if your clothes could talk. What would they say? What stories would they tell?

This episode is about a “talking” hat; it’s about the story of a hat.

This no ordinary hat. It is the  red MAGA hat worn by Trump supporters. Not only does this hat talk, it tells different stories to different people. Strong, loud, passionate stories that, all too often, trigger violent actions.

Earlier this month, a black man wearing a MAGA hat was violently assaulted and robbed by two other black men because he would not remove the hat when they ordered him to. The hat inflamed them. It triggered a STORY in their heads that led to violence.

We project all sorts of stories onto neutral objects and onto people. When we do that we are slaves to our narratives.

Here are a few of the provocative questions and insights you’ll discover in this episode:

  • What is the nature of story?
  • How do your story filters color your view of the world?
  • What happens if you don’t  take full responsibility for the narratives that create your world?
  • The similarity between your inner narratives and a wild horse
  • The truth about your opinions and judgements

The story of a hat is the story of your mind; it’s the story of the reality that you create moment to moment that makes your world enriching or frightening.

The story of hat is a challenge for you to take full responsibility for the circumstances, the emotions, and the reality that you project onto the world. It is a challenge to change your story, and change your life.

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193: All About Sex

all about sex

GETTING LAID

Yes, today’s podcast is all about sex. It’s all about getting laid. No, the show is not becoming a porn pod.

Today, we will explore what sex means to a man and a woman who spend a night together between the sheets. You’ll discover that it can mean very different things to each of them.

Our guests are Anne van Leeuwen and Ryan Hollyman, two very talented actors who are currently performing in a play called C’MON, Angie at the Assembly Theatre in Toronto.

This is a smart, compelling, provocative play that confronts the uncomfortable question, “What is sexual consent?” It’s an important and even dangerous question when the people forced to answer it have spent what could be seen as a “wild night in bed.”

This episode will take you on a fascinating journey that will challenge you, make you feel and think differently, and take you on an important inner journey toward the heart of who you are as a man or a woman.

This is some of the territory that the play explores and our guests approach in this episode:

  • The nature of true sexual consent
  • Can a fun night in bed really be an assault?
  • What is rape?
  • Do men and women want and expect different things from sex?
  • Can a good man be a sexual aggressor?
  • Do we need a new vocabulary for men and women to authentically communicate?

C’MON, Angie will take you to places you will want to avoid at the same time that you feel irresistibly drawn to them.

Listen, learn, expand, get angry, and enjoy our intimate conversation about sex.

ANNE’S & RYAN’S FAVORITE BOOKS

Transcription by Kate Atkinson (Anne)

Motley Crue: The Dirt – Confessions of the World’s Most Notorious Rock Band by Tommy Lee, Neil Strauss, et al. (Ryan)

ANNE & RYAN’S FAVORITE QUOTES

“Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not: nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not: the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.” – Calvin Coolidge (Anne)

“Live and let live.”  – Many people (Ryan)

SEE ANNE & RYAN’S SHOW

C’MON. Angie by Amy Lee Lavoie at Assembly Theatre – 1479 Queen St W, Toronto, ON M6R 1A1 Until April 28

 

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