RULES OF CONSENT
Should we hate or thank Harvey Weinstein. His behavior as a sexual predator awakened a new social awareness about the dialogue between men and women when it comes to sex. The Me Too movement has raised uncomfortable and important questions about the rules of consent. One of those questions is, “When does yes mean no?”
It’s a heated question; some may feel that yes can only mean yes.. Today’s podcast guest is talented Canadian playwright, Amy Lee Lavoie. Her latest play, C’MON, Angie, puts the challenging question, when does yes mean no, front and center.
I interviewed the actors of the Toronto production of C’MON, Angie in episode 193. Now, you get to hear from the woman who created this smart play that explodes our notions about the rules of consent between sexual partners.
Are you ready to learn, grow, and get uncomfortable about the way you may view sex, seduction, and what is right and wrong in the bedroom? Then you will enjoy this discussion between Amy and me, and, later, between Amy’s husband and me.
We cover a lot of sensitive ground in this episode. Here are few of our conversation’s highlights:
- What are the boundaries after a couple has agreed to have sex?
- Can a man unconsciously assault a woman sexually?
- How does drinking alcohol before sex influence consent?
- What role does a man’s intention play when determining consent?
The power of Amy Lee Lavoie’s play is the balanced portrait of her characters. She doesn’t paint the picture of the man as a monster. Nor does she portray Angie as a saint. They are human beings with strengths, weaknesses, and flaws. The play is designed to make you to care about its characters, and to make you ask some uncomfortable questions about your views and feelings about sex.
Toward the end of the interview with Amy, her husband, Omari Newton, joined the discussion spontaneously. He is also a writer. Our brief dialogue raises some uncomfortable questions about race.
This episode will engage your mind and your emotions; it may inspire or inflame you. I promise it won’t bore you.
BOOKS IN THIS PODCAST
Dutchman and the Slave by Leroi Jones
The Wretched of the Earth by Frantz Fanon
MIGHTY BY CHOICE
Today’s podcast is an interview with a young woman who is mighty by choice. Her name is Caitlin Pyle. She believes, as I do, that anyone can be mighty by choice.
Her story is about her fascinating journey from living by other people’s rules to claiming her power and learning to live by her own rules.
You can listen to her story two ways. One, you can hear it and say, “That’s great for her, but my situation is very different. I can never do what she did.”
Two, you can receive Caitlin’s message and say, “Wow! She went from feeling powerless to feeling strong by making a decision to do so. I can make the same kind of decision.” Which option will serve you best?
Caitlin changed her identity story from employee to entrepreneur. That change allowed her to become a millionaire by age 30.
Here are just a few of the powerful inspirational nuggets you’ll take away from my interview with Caitlin Pyle:
- How she decided to wrap herself in strength, might, and power
- The only two sources of all your actions – fear and love
- How you become a magnet when you become a leader
- The two most important choices of your life – to be outer directed or inner directed
- The true meaning of guilt
- The true meaning of self forgiveness
- Why no one has the real power to bully you
- How to successfully work at home
- And, yes, there is much, much, more…
BOOKS IN THIS PODCAST
Walden by Henry David Thoreau
Procrastination Priority by Dan Sullivan
CAITLIN’S FAVORITE QUOTE
“Our truest life is when we are in dreams awake.” – Henry David Thoreau
A nomadic lifestyle means that you frequently change your location; you choose not to have one fixed address. That can be scary or liberating. It a; depends on your mindset, your story about life and the world.
Today’s podcast guest is Kala Philo, a woman who gave up her traditional career and possessions and chose a life on the road. It began as an adventure. It became her permanent nomadic lifestyle.
Today, Kala earns money online, the perfect choice for a person who is always mobile. And, she teaches and inspire others to live adventurous rewarding lives that embrace change and value freedom.
You’ll be engaged, entertained, perhaps even encouraged to live your own adventure as you listen to Kala. Here are a few nuggets from today’s podcast:
- What it means to be psychologically unemployable
- Why uncertainty is a powerful human need
- How decluttering can liberate your life
- How to overcome the fears that stand between you and your dreams
- What is slow travel?
- Books that add power to your inner game
- How to creatively earn money while you travel
You will also enjoy Kala Philo’s energy; it can awaken your buried dreams and make you feel more alive.
BOOKS IN THIS PODCAST
The Gift: Poems by Hafiz, the Great Sufi Master by Hafiz and Daniel Ladinsky
Clutter Busting: Letting Go of What’s Holding You Back by Brooks Palmer
Risky is the New Safe: The Rules Have Changed by Randy Gage
The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod and Robert Kiyosaki
Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert T. Kiyosaki
The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday & Stephen Hanselman
Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink & Leif Babin
Bold: How to Go Big, Create Wealth and Impact the World by Peter Diamandis & Stephen Kotler
KALA’S FAVORITE QUOTE
“Go forth and conquer.” – someone
ARE YOU FAKING IT?
It’s called Imposter Syndrome. More people than you can imagine experience it. I do, and I’ll bet, you do too.
It’s that nagging feeling that people are going to “find you out.” They will recognize that you are not as good as you claim to be, and they will expose you as an imposter.
Imposter syndrome is one of the most destructive narratives that we create in our minds. It keeps us from trying new things. It stifles our creativity. It denies us our innate greatness. It steals our lives.
Today’s podcast guest, Michelle Gomez is an expert on imposter syndrome. I’ll call her the Imposter Syndrome Buster. She did battle with her own imposter narrative and won. Now, she helps others conquer this dream stealing monster and gain the confidence and self-esteem we all deserve.
This podcast interview is truly a game changer. Listen to Michelle, and you will discover:
- The root causes of imposter syndrome (deserve issues)
- How to switch from external validation to self-validation
- Your brilliance has a purpose
- How imposter syndrome will burn you out
- Secrets of self-sabotage
- How books can liberate you
- The importance of emotional intelligence
- Why you must stop trying to fix other people
- The powerful benefits of storytelling to empower your life
These are just a few of the gems that Michelle Gomez offers you in this podcast. One of the most valuable is the understanding you will gain about your U C O N – your Unique Cocktail of Needs.
Sit back, relax, and listen to this podcast with a beginner’s mind; that means without judgement. Allow Michelle’s clarity to help you become more clear. Allow here hard won knowledge to shift your thinking about yourself.
Listen to this with the right intention, and you will be able to change your story, and change your life.
BOOKS IN THIS PODCAST
Own Your Brilliance by Michelle M. Gomez
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
Daring Greatly by Brene Brown
The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero
You Are a Badass at Making Money by Jen Sincero
Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead by Sheryl Sandberg
MICHELLE’S FAVORITE QUOTE
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of the deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” – Theodore Roosevelt
MICHELLE’S FREE GIFTS FOR YOU
- FREE copy of Michelle’s book – Own Your Brilliance
- FREE Imposter Syndrome Assessment
- FREE strategy call with Michelle
What is your dignity zone? It’s a place where you feel trusted, respected, and safe.
A dignity zone is more than a physical environment. It’s a state of being, an awareness that elevates your self esteem and defines a culture that lets you grow and thrive.
Esther Weinberg, today’s podcast guest, has built her entrepreneurial success on the foundation of her dignity zone. It is also the key that unlocks the power and leadership of the media companies she helps to transform and prosper.
Esther is bold, passionate, and bright. You will be inspired by her courage and willingness to embrace change and step into the unknown.
Learn how and why she left a great job at Disney to create her own company, MindLight Group. Follow her on her exciting journey that took her from the safety and comfort of a career in the United States to her gratifying work in Uganda.
Expand your mind with her insight on the power of being vs. doing and owning your personal power. Discover why it’s important to find your own voice. Experience the vicarious thrill of Esther’s climb to the top of Mt. Kilimanjaro.
Today’s podcast is for women and men, people in the corporate world and entrepreneurs, business leaders, and anyone passionate about mindset and personal growth.
BOOKS IN THIS PODCAST
Into Thin Air: A Personal Account of the Mt. Everest Disaster by John Krakauer
Triggers: Creating Behavior That Lasts–Becoming the Person You Want to Be by Marshall Goldsmith and Wendy Speake
Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life by Susan David
Appreciative Inquiry: A Positive Revolution in Change by David L. Cooperrider and Diana Whitney
The Power of Appreciative Inquiry by Diana Whitney and Amanda Trosten-Bloom
Immunity to Change: How to Overcome it and Unlock the Potential in Yourself and Your Organization by Robert Keegan and Lisa Laskow Lahey
Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen
The Code of the Extraordinary Mind by Vishen Lakhiani
ESTHER’S FAVORITE QUOTE
“What we think determines what happens to us, so if we want to change our lives, we need to stretch our minds.” – Wayne Dyer